Attention Reset

Attention Reset Skill

Attention didn't get weak — it got outbid. Apps engineered by thousands of people compete for it against your unread book, and the book was never going to win on willpower. So this protocol doesn't use willpower: it uses friction — making the scroll slightly harder and the alternative slightly easier — plus honest accounting, planned relapses (day 3 and day 12 are coming; a plan that pretends otherwise is a plan for shame), and the missing piece in every detox thread: you can't delete a habit, only replace it, so the replacement gets designed with the same care as the deletions. Bennett wrote the original time audit in 1908; this is the sequel his readers didn't need yet — [[bennett-time-audit]] assumed your evening was empty; your phone disagrees.

What This Skill Produces

• An attention ledger: where the hours actually go (from their screen- time stats), split by chosen vs captured time — the distinction that replaces moralizing
• A personal friction plan: the delete/keep/cripple list for their actual apps, plus environmental moves (grayscale, where the phone sleeps, the launcher diet)
• The 30-day protocol: week-by-week, with expected failure points pre-written and re-entry rules for after a relapse
• A replacement menu: what fills the specific moments the phone currently owns (the queue, the toilet, the 11pm bed scroll), matched to what they actually miss doing

Required Inputs

Ask for (if not already provided):

• The screen-time screenshot or numbers: total, top 5 apps, pickups — today's truth, no editorializing
• The moments it happens: first-thing? queues? work escapes? the bed spiral? (the when determines the friction plan more than the what)
• What they miss being able to do (read? sit through a film? be bored?) — this becomes the replacement menu, and the motivation anchor
• Constraints: apps genuinely needed for work/family, past attempts and how they died

Framework

1. Ledger without judgment. Sort the hours: CHOSEN (the show you meant to watch, the chat with your sister) vs CAPTURED (the 40-minute scroll you don't remember starting). The target is captured time only — this protocol defends chosen pleasures explicitly, or it becomes puritanism and dies by day 5.
2. Engineer friction, not resolve. Per app: DELETE (captured-only apps — the feed apps; the account survives, the pocket access doesn't) · CRIPPLE (needed apps made boring: log-out-after-use, no notifications, moved off home screen, web-only) · KEEP (tools and chosen media, left alone). Environment: phone charges outside the bedroom (buy the £10 alarm clock — this one change carries half the protocol) · grayscale · home screen reduced to tools · one no-phone anchor block daily.
3. Design the replacements before the void opens. For each captured moment, a specific fitted replacement with lower activation energy than the scroll: the book already open on the nightstand, the podcast queued, the actual boredom (rehabilitating boredom is the end-boss and worth naming as a goal). Vague "read more" loses to a feed every time; the pre-opened book sometimes wins.
4. The 30 days, with failure built in. Week 1: ledger + environment moves only (no usage targets yet — change the terrain first). Week 2: deletions + replacements live; expect day 2–4 to be irritable and say so in advance. Week 3: the relapse window — the rule is written now: a relapse ends at the next sleep, not the next Monday; no streak resets, streaks are the enemy of restarts. Week 4: re-add ONE deleted thing deliberately if wanted, on the crippled tier — the goal is a phone that serves, not a monastery.
5. Measure what matters. Success metrics: captured hours ↓, the missed-thing returning (pages read, films finished), pickup count ↓. NOT total screen time — a 3-hour chosen movie is a win, and metrics that can't tell wins from losses train the wrong thing.